We have looked at our assets, resources and self-worth, the themes of the second house. We have established how we feel we are doing in this part of our life. In this step we will specify what exactly it is we would like to change.
The model we’ll be using, is the starfish. You will need a pen and a piece of paper as well as the notes you made before. On the piece of paper, you draw five lines, just like the arms of the sea creature. Now label the compartments: stop, less of, keep, more of and start.
Look at your inventory once more. For each of the topics you described, ask yourself: is this how I would like it to stay? If not, how would I like it to be different? Then start filling the compartments. What would you like to see more of? What are you ready to let go? Is there anything new you want to bring into your life? You might come up with activities, but also habits, patterns, skills or beliefs. Here below is what I listed in my starfish on the second house.
Stop – doing all the ‘operational’ tasks myself / scattering my energy / basing my financial planning on living hand-to-mouth / allowing fearful thoughts to take up so much space / comparing my insides to other people’s outsides
Do less of – unpaid work / underpaid work
Keep – –
Do more of – work that honours my talents and experience / work that is properly paid / my own creative projects / working with children / leadership roles in paid projects / public interviews, teaching and other work ‘on stage’
Start – decluttering the house / decluttering my work space / planning future larger expenses now / shifting my focus within / exploring my attitude to (making) money
My rising sign 