After taking stock of three major areas of the third house and after sitting down to notice how I felt about the inventory, it is now time to get practical. In this step I will specify what exactly I seek to change.
As with the previous inventory, I’ll be using the starfish model. You can find a more detailed description of this tool in the second house section. Some questions to ask, while looking over your inventory are: What would I like to see more of? What am I ready to let go? Is there anything new I want to bring into my life? The answers to these questions can be found in your inventory; no need to come up with anything else, just filter out the things to do and not to do.
This is what I listed in my starfish on the third house themes of daily life and rituals, siblings and close friends and communication. As you’ll see this is no straightforward to-do-list yet. I still have to translate these ideas into actionable steps and decide which of those steps to take when.
Stop – social media / keeping contact details and connections of people who I have no real connection with / drinking a glass of wine in the evening to lessen stress / working late
Do less of – online communication / cognitive activities
Keep – writing / mental stimulation and developing ideas / doing my work with the help of my therapist and coach / checking whether a project allows for space to bring creativity before I take it on
Do more of – physical activities and exercise / spending time outdoors and in nature / gardening / taking time for cooking / determining my own schedule and being clear about when I can or cannot take meetings / getting enough sleep / structuring chores / spending time with my sister and nephew / being my most gentle, soft, calm and present self with my close friends / being vulnerable / communicating love, kindness, gratitude and light to close friends / in person communication / projects that involve speaking in front of a class or an audience / focused use of various means of communication (let them work for me rather than the other way around)
Start – routines and rituals for self-care, gratitude, presence and spirituality / going to bed well before midnight / efficiently storing data and managing emails / efficiently communicating with potential clients / preparing to launch this blog on 18 March 2022 / do a starfish on means of communication / take time to grief / let go of former friends, colleagues and connections with a ritual / reconnect with my fighting spirit
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